Counselling and
stress management
in Southampton


How are you getting on with the people in your life?

Sometimes clients tell me they think that having counselling, or another type of help, is selfish because 'it's all about me!' I think therapy can be profoundly generous to others as developing our sense of wellbeing and wholeness may help us engage more skilfully and with greater wisdom in our relationships.

'How people treat you is their Karma;
How you react is yours.'
Wayne Dyer

If you can acknowledge and work through your own issues with kindness, patience and honesty, your increased awareness and inner resources could help you face and work through relationship issues with a more constructive and healing energy. Everyone potentially benefits. Let's explore this idea in more detail below...

How are you getting on with you?

Quality relationships with others make everyone's lives better. An obvious statement to make, but it's also backed up by research like this. Let's keep digging!

Many things can help us become benign inner parents. Meditation practices, psychotherapy and being surrounded by caring people who value calm stability sound like good places to start. And just as parenting children takes lots of time and patience, we need to bring these same qualities to...

our own inner childlike elements.

Dive deeper into attachment theory and healing

This video by Patrick Teahan gives a great intro to different internal attachment styles and some of the therapeutic tasks that could help each struggling style. While he focuses on childhood experiences, I've regularly seen how events later in life can also impact how we attach (relate) to ourselves and others. If you watch the whole video, there are some useful questions at the end to help you apply this learning to your own situation.

Heidi Priebe explores how we can learn to work with our attachment styles as we explore our shadow i.e. disowned parts of our identity we're usually not aware of. While we can say 'I'm usually this attachment style' my experience is that we can also move in and out of different attachment styles as our levels of stress/balance change.