What’s in the driving seat?
‘What’s in the driving seat of the metaphorical car (or canoe) of my life right now? Is fear, anger, sadness or another feeling in charge? Or is wise, kind, grounded awareness guiding my actions?’
Counselling may help you explore questions like these and find ways to put awareness in your driving seat more often. Developing healing awareness usually involves working with others. Well, no one’s an island. For over 20 years, I’ve supported people to find their way through personal and professional issues. Maybe we can do some good navigating too.
I also teach a stress management course and offer strengths coaching and careers guidance.
Are you a counsellor or psychotherapist in need of some holistic, creative CPD? If so, you may wish to check out my 'What's in the driving seat?' and 'Working with the body in therapy' workshops.
Feel free to get in touch if you’d like to talk anything through, book a counselling appointment or find out about attending, or hosting, a workshop.
With best wishes,
Sometimes, despite our best efforts, we just get stuck. We can get lost in things like:
+ Life just getting too much. And not knowing what to do about it.
+ Anxiety and stress. When the worry switch won’t turn off.
+ Depression. Feeling powerless and alone in a hopeless place.
+ Psychological wounds. From painful experiences and losses.
+ Career uncertainties. The work you do and who you do it with.
+ Relationship problems. All varieties of interpersonal hurt.
+ Struggling with emotions. Anger? Fear? Sadness?
Are you considering working through some important issues with a counsellor? My experience is that possibilities for emotional healing, from small to large and from practical to profound, wait quietly and patiently within and between us all.
contentment, clarity and peace.
That is the path for you to follow.'
Is there too much distress in your life? Counselling could help you transform unhelpful mixtures of feelings, thoughts, images, memories, body sensations and behaviours. It may help you get on better with yourself and enrich important relationships. I aim to work with the whole you. This means I’m interested in both the qualities that strengthen you and painful experiences that can often be sources of deep learning and growth.
Being listened to while sorting through important issues can be profoundly healing. We can also use creative approaches to explore confusing goings on when you can’t find the words. Maybe occasional use of body-based activities, such as breathing and acupressure, will help you to feel more balanced and to think more clearly.
Check out the counselling page to find out more.
Stress management course
Do you need to learn how to relax? Meeting once a week for up to eight sessions with a follow up about a month later, you learn a range of straightforward relaxation techniques and active ways to support healthy emotional release. Autogenic Training (AT) practices last between 10 seconds and 10 minutes and can bring many balancing and restoring moments. Find out more about the AT course.
Are you making good use of your inner resources? Strengths Profile coaching may bring valuable energy and direction into your life. You can have a one-off session or use this enriching activity as part of ongoing support. Check out Values in Action for a free, introductory strengths report.
Does your career need some TLC? If you’re stuck in a rut, careers guidance could help you find more meaningful options and get clearer about how to move forwards. If you’re really struggling with one or more work colleagues, maybe counselling is what you need.
This video may help if you're facing any important career or life decisions.
For Southampton, Hampshire and the South
While many people I work with on a one to one basis live in Southampton, some also come from places like Winchester, Salisbury, Romsey, Portsmouth, Petersfield, New Forest, Fareham, Eastleigh, Chandlers Ford and Bournemouth. There’s free parking where we’d meet.
Resource of the month: May 2020
Learn to relax
Find out more about the Autogenic Training (AT) stress management course.
AT is one of the extra support options I offer.
Additional support for my clients
If we worked together, you'd be able to use resources I've developed as well as a carefully selected collection of self-help practices. We'd also work together to help you make good use of any resources that seem particularly relevant to your needs.
Picture of the month: May 2020
Counselling in Southampton and workshops for therapists.