‘What’s in the driving seat of the metaphorical car (or canoe) of my life right now? Is fear, anger, sadness or another feeling in charge? Or is wise, kind, grounded awareness guiding my actions?’
Counselling may help you explore questions like these and find ways to put awareness in your driving seat more often. Developing healing awareness usually involves working with others. Well, no one’s an island. For over 20 years, I’ve supported people to find their way through confusion and stuckness. Maybe we can do some good path-finding too.
I also teach a self-help and stress management method called Autogenic Therapy (AT) and offer strengths coaching and careers guidance.
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Feel free to get in touch if you’d like to talk anything through or book an appointment to explore how counselling or another type of support could help.
Are you a counsellor or psychotherapist in need of some holistic, creative CPD? If so, you may wish to check out my 'What's in the driving seat?' and 'Working with the body in therapy' workshops.
With best wishes,
Sometimes, despite our best efforts, we just get stuck. We can get lost in:
• Life just getting too much. Resilience low, confusion high.
• Anxiety and stress. When the worry switch won’t turn off.
• Depression. Feeling powerless and alone in a hopeless place.
• Psychological wounds. From painful experiences and losses.
• Career uncertainties. The work you do and who you do it with.
• Relationship problems. All varieties of interpersonal hurt.
• Struggling with emotions. Anger? Fear? Sadness?
Are you considering working through some important issues with a counsellor? My experience is that possibilities for emotional healing, from small to large and from practical to profound, wait quietly and patiently within and between us all.
contentment, clarity and peace.
That is the path for you to follow.'
Is there too much distress in your life? Counselling could help you get on better with yourself and enrich important relationships. I aim to work with the whole you. This means I’m interested in both the qualities that strengthen you and painful experiences that can often be sources of deep learning and growth.
Being listened to while sorting through important issues can be profoundly healing. We can also use creative approaches to explore confusing goings on when you can’t find the words. Maybe occasional use of self-help practices, such as combining mindful breathing and/or acupressure with saying kind words to yourself, will help you to feel more balanced and grounded and to think more clearly.
Check out the counselling page to find out more about what to expect during therapy.
Self-help and stress management
Do you need to learn how to relax? Autogenic Therapy (AT) practices last between 10 seconds and 10 minutes and can bring many balancing and restoring moments. Meeting once a week for up to eight sessions with a follow up about a month later, you learn a range of straightforward relaxation techniques and active ways to support healthy emotional release. Find out more about how AT could help you learn to relax.
Are you making good use of your inner resources? Strengths Profile coaching may bring valuable energy and direction into your life. You can have a one-off session or use this enriching activity as part of ongoing support.
Do the free Values in Action Institute on Character survey. Which two of your top ten strengths do you need to use more of to make the most of today? For each strength, identify one practical activity you could do today to support you. As you reflect on these two activities, which one energises you the most and leaves you feeling most hopeful? Commit to taking this action today.
Does your career need some TLC? If you’re stuck in a rut, careers guidance could help you find more meaningful options and get clearer about how to move forwards. If your struggle is more about who you’re working with rather than what you’re doing, it could be that counselling is what you really need.
Are you feeling some challenging thoughts and feelings as you contemplate developing your career? This great animation explores some common psychological responses as we embark on important new ventures in our lives.
How are you getting on with the people in your life? Sometimes clients tell me they think coming for counselling is selfish because 'it's all about me!' I think therapy is both personal and inter-personal as developing our sense of wellbeing and wholeness can help us engage more fully in our relationships.
If you can acknowledge and work through your own issues with kindness and patience, this may help you face and work through challenges with others. Everyone potentially benefits. This wonderful video shines a scientific light on the value of connectedness.
For Southampton, Hampshire and the South
While many people I work with on a one to one basis live in Southampton, some also come from places like Winchester, Salisbury, Romsey, Portsmouth, Petersfield, New Forest, Fareham, Eastleigh, Chandlers Ford and Bournemouth. There’s free parking where we’d meet.
I offer one day workshops for counsellors, psychotherapists and related helping professionals. Please check out the workshops page to find out more and feel free to get in touch if you've got any questions.
To be confirmed
Resourcefulness: July 2020
Touch, breathe and balance
There is no need for therapy to be unbearably painful as regulating practices can usually help to transform distress.
Check out the advice and video at the bottom of the balancing section on the Counselling page to find out about a straightforward soothing activity.
Additional support for my clients
If we worked together, you'd be able to use resources I've developed as well as a carefully selected collection of self-help practices. We'd also work together to help you make good use of any resources that seem particularly relevant to your needs.
'Awareness in itself
'I'll have a flake in mine, please...'
Counselling in Southampton and CPD workshops for therapists.
Autogenic therapy, strengths coaching and careers guidance.