What's in the driving seat?
If life is like a road or a river, would you say that unhelpful, emotion-charged thinking or wise, kind awareness currently decides how and where you drive your car or paddle your canoe? Counselling could give your awareness more valuable, healing time in the driving seat. Like the image above, when awareness is in charge, you're more likely to have healing moments on calm and sparkling waters, and you can use these vital resources to light up your darker places.
Counselling has been the foundation stone of my practice since 2011, but I recognise there are many ways to change things for the better. As mindfulness is all about developing compassionate awareness, I teach a mindfulness-based stress management system called Autogenic Therapy (AT). I also offer strengths coaching and careers guidance. Extra support below says more about this.
'When awareness is in charge, you're more likely to have healing moments on calm and sparkling waters.'
With many years of experience working with university students, graduates and early career professionals, I have a good understanding of the issues facing these diverse groups. However, I enjoy working with people of all ages, backgrounds and identities and offer a sliding fee scale to support this. Wherever you come from, I'm interested in your unique story. Relationship problems (with partners, family, friends, work colleagues and others) and just feeling profoundly stuck are the two most common issues that I help people to work through.
Based in a peaceful location in Bitterne SO19, I offer a free 15 to 20 minute phone or video call and a reduced-fee, no-obligation first appointment to help explore how we could work together. So if you've got any questions or want to check anything out, feel free to get in touch.
With best wishes
Welcome video text
Welcome to Goodwill Guidance. I'd like to say three things in my virtual hello.
At a very practical level, as well as introducing my approach to therapy, the counselling page has links to resources and videos that you might find helpful.
Secondly, there are many paths to wellbeing. For example, I also teach a self-help system called Autogenic Therapy that, with regular practice, could bring many relaxing and restoring moments into your life.
And finally, my experience is that we can make choices every day to constructively change what’s in the driving seat. So please feel free to get in touch if you’d like to explore ways to support this life-enhancing process.
Sometimes, despite our best efforts, we just get stuck. We can get lost in:
• Life just getting too much.
• Communication and relationship problems.
• Psychological wounds that won't heal.
• Stress, anxiety and depression.
• Career challenges and uncertainties.
• Struggling with emotions like fear, anger, sadness and shame.
My experience is that possibilities for emotional healing, from small to large and from practical to profound, wait quietly and patiently within and between us all.
'See for yourself what brings
contentment, clarity and peace.
That is the path for you to follow.'
Are you a good friend to yourself?
Counselling could bring a healing light to dark areas in yourself and your relationships. It may help you find valuable resources to clean and dress emotional wounds. It could help you learn important lessons and move on.
Research repeatedly shows that building a trusting relationship with your counsellor is more important than the methods they use. Even so, you may wish to check out my holistic approach to therapy which recognises the importance of:
• Awareness and listening
• Creative Play
• Balancing and soothing
• Feeling and
• Being kind.
If you like the sound of what you read, this could be a sign we’d work well together.
So, what is in the driving seat?
Just what is paddling your canoe? There are many ways to explore this vital question. I’ve developed a creative method based on the five element metaphors of Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal and Water that may help you better experience, understand and work with the rich emotional processes and habits that direct your life.
'You were flexible, understanding and patient.'
‘Really valued being able to explore and understand things more.’
‘The intensity of anger I was feeling has lessened significantly.’
'I can cope better even though life is still very stressful.'
'A valuable experience which was a great help to me.'
Do you need to learn how to relax? Autogenic Therapy (AT) practices last between 10 seconds and 10 minutes and can bring many balancing and restoring moments. Meeting once a week for seven sessions with a follow up about a month later, you learn a range of practical, mindful relaxation techniques to support your emotional wellbeing. Find out more about how AT could help you learn to relax.
Are you making good use of your inner resources? Strengths profile coaching may bring valuable energy and direction into your life. You can have a one-off session or use this enriching activity as part of ongoing support.
Does your career need some TLC? If you’re stuck in a rut, careers guidance could help you find more meaningful options and clarify how to move forwards. If your struggle is more about who you’re working with rather than what you’re doing, or if career issues are seriously impacting all areas of your life, it could be that counselling is what you need.
Time to pause
For Southampton and the South
While many people I work with live in Southampton, some also come from places like Winchester, Salisbury, Romsey, Portsmouth, Petersfield, the New Forest, Fareham, Eastleigh, Chandlers Ford, Basingstoke and Bournemouth.
There’s free parking where we’d meet and good train and bus services to my practice. I also offer video and phone appointments which gives flexibility and enables me to work with people who live a good way from Southampton.