Counselling and
stress management
in Southampton


Take a breath
Pull back
Practise what works

Copyright © Carol Vivyan

STOPP if you need to start again

Here's my take on the process:

  1. Stop: When you notice you’re struggling and want to find a better way, stop and pause.

  2. Take a breath: Connect with your breathing to slow down and balance your bodymind.

  3. Observe: Become aware of your thoughts, feelings and body sensations. Be mindful.

  4. Pull back: Get more perspective. Say to yourself the helpful, wise and kind words you’d share with a friend if they were struggling with the same situation as you.

  5. Practise what works: Take pragmatic action that aligns with your values.

'The pessimist complains about the wind;
the optimist expects it to change;
the realist adjusts the sails.'
William Arthur Ward

Learning to STOPP
Like any skill, you'll need to practise to realise the benefits of this method. These resources may support your practice: