Helping you find your way
I imagine you’re reading this because, in one way or another, you’re struggling, stuck or lost. If we worked together, I hope you’d find a better way to face your difficulties and take meaningful steps towards more balance and wellbeing.
Hello. My name is David Whistance and I'd like to welcome you to Goodwill Guidance. An accredited counsellor who also teaches practical stress management methods, I'm based in peaceful locations in Southampton and Winchester.
As well as offering a space to be heard and listened to, to creatively explore difficult experiences and to practise relaxation and balancing techniques, I can also put on my careers guidance hat if your working life needs some TLC.
This page and the rest of the site say more about what I offer. Check things out. Have a think. And feel free to call me on 07949913737 or send an email if you've got any questions or would like to book an appointment.
With best wishes
contentment, clarity and peace.
That is the path for you to follow.'
What do you need?
Counselling enables you to explore challenging issues within a special, supportive relationship. Somewhere to help you face difficulties and distress and move towards positive, healing resolution.
Autogenic Training (AT) is a practical yet profound approach to stress management and self help. AT mindfulness practices could nurture inner calm, emotional balance and self awareness.
I can put on my careers guidance hat if you're searching for greater satisfaction and meaning in the working part of your life.
So who and what do you need most? A counsellor to help you face and work through distress and/or roadblocks on your journey? A relaxation skills and self help facilitator? Or someone to help you find your way out of a musty career corner? The Support page says more about how each approach could help and we’d discuss how to best address your needs and goals when we meet.
Issues and possibilities
Sometimes, despite our best efforts, we just get stuck. Here are some of the sticky issues I've helped people work through over the years as a counsellor, careers adviser and autogenic therapist.
+ Anxiety, worry and stress are frequent visitors.
+ Then there's depression. Being lost in a dark, lonely and hopeless place.
+ Loss of loved ones. Loss of meaning. Loss of identity. Loss of confidence. Loss of direction.
+ Career uncertainties. Involving what you do and/or who you're doing it with.
+ Relationship problems. All shades and intensities of conflict and rupture.
+ Struggling with emotions such as anger, fear and sadness.
+ And finally, life just getting too much.
If we worked together, I hope you’d experience a helpful mix of listening, exploring, creating, balancing and other healing ingredients. I hope important understanding and meaningful change would emerge for you over time from the weird and wonderful world of therapeutic possibilities.
For Southampton, Hampshire and the South
While about half the people I work with live in Southampton, many come from locations throughout Hampshire and the South including Winchester, Salisbury, Romsey, Portsmouth, Petersfield, New Forest, Fareham, Eastleigh, Chandlers Ford and Bournemouth.
Do you like the idea of working with a counsellor, careers adviser or stress management teacher who doesn't live on your doorstep? Seeing someone a manageable distance from home sometimes helps create a good psychological space.
June 2018 update
Resource of the month
The Gestalt approach
While how you get on with your therapist usually matters more than the theories and techniques they use (see 'Helpful helping' above and large-scale research findings), you may wish to find out more about the Humanistic Gestalt tradition which underpins my work.
Gestalt means whole and this approach recognises the profound, holistic inter-connectedness of mind, body and spirit. While experiencing therapy is different to reading about it, this article from Coaching Today sits well with my practice and it may also speak to you.
For other resources and videos that explore counselling, stress management and careers guidance topics, please check out the Resources page.
Pic of the month
As Churchill said, it's the courage to continue that counts.