Helping you find your way
Hello. My name is David Whistance and I'd like to welcome you to Goodwill Guidance. An accredited counsellor who also teaches practical stress management methods, I'm based in peaceful locations in Southampton and Winchester.
I imagine you’re reading this because, in one way or another, you’re struggling, stuck or lost. If we worked together, I hope you’d find a better way to face your difficulties and take meaningful steps towards more balance and wellbeing.
As well as offering counselling and stress management self help, I'm also a qualified careers adviser. While potential issues often cut across our private, personal and working lives, I'm experienced helping people work through career development challenges if you need support with this.
Feel free to call me on 07949913737 or send an email with any questions or to book an initial appointment.
I am currently not taking on new clients
but can provide details of trusted colleagues who provide
counselling, stress management and careers guidance support.
What do you need?
Counselling enables you to explore challenging issues within a special, supportive relationship. Somewhere to help you face difficulties and distress and move towards positive, healing resolution.
Autogenic Training (AT) is a practical yet profound approach to stress management and self help. AT mindfulness practices could nurture inner calm, emotional balance and self awareness.
I can put on my careers guidance hat if you're searching for greater satisfaction and meaning in the working part of your life.
So who and what do you need most? A counsellor to help you face and work through distress and/or roadblocks on your journey? A relaxation skills and self help facilitator? Or someone to help you find your way out of a musty career corner? The Support page says more about how each approach may help and we would discuss how to best address your needs and goals should we meet.
Issues and possibilities
Sometimes, despite our best efforts, we just get stuck. Here are some of the sticky issues I've helped people work with over the years.
+ Anxiety, worry and stress are frequent visitors.
+ Then there's depression. Being lost in a dark and lonely place.
+ Loss of loved ones. Loss of meaning. Loss of identity. Loss of confidence. Loss of direction.
+ Career uncertainties. Involving what you do and/or who you're doing it with.
+ Relationship problems. All shades and intensities of conflict and rupture.
+ Struggling with emotions such as anger, fear and sadness that are felt in the body.
+ And finally, life just getting too much.
If we worked together, I hope you’d experience a helpful mix of listening, exploring, creating, balancing and other healing ingredients. I hope important understanding and meaningful change would emerge for you over time from the weird and wonderful world of therapeutic possibilities.
For Southampton, Hampshire and the South
While about half the people I work with live in Southampton, many come from locations throughout Hampshire and the South including Winchester, Salisbury, Romsey, Portsmouth, Petersfield, New Forest, Fareham, Eastleigh, Chandlers Ford and Bournemouth.
Do you like the idea of working with a helping professional who doesn't live on your doorstep? Seeing someone a manageable distance from home sometimes helps create a good psychological space.
Resource of the month
Warm porridge please
Goldilocks was OK. As she pondered the Mindfulness Awareness Stabilizing Training (MAST) advice by St Michael's she thought 'Yes, I'm in the warm porridge zone.' This was her way of saying she was in her Window of Tolerance. A much better day than yesterday when she'd had a row with Cinderalla. During the clash with her friend, she'd got overwhelmed by emotion and found it hard to think clearly. She’d been in a hot porridge (hyper-aroused) place. As she recalled the upset, however, Goldilocks started to go numb; not feeling anything in a Mama Bear, cold porridge (hypo-aroused) kind of way. Realising her need for self-care, she had a rejuvenating slurp of Earl Grey tea and settled down to do the MAST self compassion meditation. 'That's better!' she said ten minutes later as she washed up her mug.
As you’ve probably gathered by now, this story is a metaphor for the ups and downs of our inner life. Just like Goldilocks, it can help to recognize when we're struggling, be aware of what's going on and take steps to move back into a more balanced place. Counselling and stress management practices like Autogenic Training could help you re-enter your Window of Tolerance. And maybe help you get the temperature of your metaphorical porridge 'just right.'
For other resources and videos that explore counselling, stress management and careers guidance topics, please check out the Resources page.
Pic of the month
A peaceful start to the day